Online dating woes

[leadcounsel]

Have to share some funny or sad experiences with online dating.

I've had both great and terrible online dating experiences. It's not an abnormal activity, for those who think it odd. Some of my best relationships have been formed thru online meetings - friends, reconnecting with people, and girlfriends.

Anyway, I want to share some funny stories, and ask that you contribute as well to what I hope is going to be a long time ongoing thread of hilarity. Please keep your negative opinions of the practice to yourself and not on this thread.

I was in a recent conversation with a woman who seemed normal and had some somewhat attractive photos. She went right to "can we text" (meaning I want your phone number) or "move this to facebook" which means she'd know my name and access lots of personal info. Gents, the answer to these questions early on is always a solid "NO, let's just talk here for a bit." And if you need proof, here's why. And you MUST ask a lot of questions. I asked where she works and if she owns a home, or has kids.

We engage in a few messages, and then she drops this carpet bombing attack which will drive away any man.

"I do not work because I am on social security disability because I have systemic lupus and end stage renal disease so I am on dialysis which I do at night while sleeping. And I am waiting for a kidney transplant if you met me in person you'd never know I was sick unless I told you I am active I clean and do laundry take care of my son. I just can't work until I get the transplant I was working and Everytime I would be doing good working I'd get sick and end up in the hospital. So the doctors thought it best to just wait until after the transplant to work again. So if you walked past me on the street or even if we were sitting down talking you wouldn't be able to tell unless I told you. Because of that my son and I are temporarily living with my parents and I am hoping to be able to start school sometime soon. I love to learn and if I could I would just take different classes as a job and learn new things and skills. But I do hope to take classes so I can get some kind of job so I can support myself and my son by myself once I get my transplant."

Wow...

So basically, you'd be stepping into a medical, financial, and family and living situation disaster... Yeah, I wished her well but said I wasn't interested any further.

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[Guntrader]

I went out with a (verified) Miss America Runner Up from WA State once.
Her profile included something about "I just want a kind man who doesn't yell and hit me all the time."
Figured I had a chance. Hahahaha Would make for a good story even if it didn't work out.

Had one who sent me a pic, looked gorgeous.
Must have been her high school pic because she ballooned up to whatever size a seat belt doesn't fit around anymore.

Had a cutie who told me on our third date that she hadn't shot up meth in almost two weeks........

Have a friend who was a part owner of a strip club, banged all the chicks for free.

Just bang them, and NEVER get involved in or even hear about their personal lives.
You'll get sucked in, so to speak.

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[leadcounsel]

See now that ^^^^ is the fun stuff I'm looking for.

Few years back, I took a very attractive woman on a date after we talked on the phone a few times for many hours. She seemed really normal and interesting. While at the restaurant, where I spent $100 btw, I went to the bathroom and when I came out I found her looking through the pockets of my leather jacket on my chair. Wrist deep in my interior pocket! No explanation.... really awkward as well.

[cdoniguian]

This thread could become epic. Lol.

[Benja455]

Online dating was exhausting. But beyond the usual stuff it was challenging to have this conversation with women in Seattle:



Fortunately, I found a woman from CA who was ready to become a pro-gun convert.

[MadPick]

Nice, Ben.

[cdoniguian]

Online dating was exhausting. But beyond the usual stuff it was challenging to have this conversation with women in Seattle:



Fortunately, I found a woman from CA who was ready to become a pro-gun convert.

Where did you get that pic of the ESC board room?

[Benja455]

:ROFLMAO:

Nice, Ben.

Thanks. This is another one along the same lines:

[leadcounsel]

Another one.

Years ago, I traded messages and pictures with a very pretty woman who was interesting on the phone too. Said she liked similar things, played basketball, skiing, etc. Nice charming woman. We agreed on a lunch date at a local restaurant and would meet in the lobby.

I show up and extend my hand, and she produces a deformed stump with only a thumb. Um. Okay. I have no issues with being handicapped, I was just unprepared for it. That was not in her profile and certainly never came up. During the date she proceeds to tell me about a laundry list of birth defects - no right breast, no left thigh muscle, and other things I can't recall. Again, had she been up front, which I think is appropriate for such drastic things, I would have been more prepared. Her concealing and ambushing me with it was a real turn off. I did not ask her out again.

Similar complaints from women I've dated about men - mostly lying about their height only to show up and be SEVERAL inches shorter and somethings even shorter than the woman. One girlfiend said she showed up and looked around the restaurant for several minutes and could not find him. It's because he was unexpectedly in a wheelchair which he never disclosed. Paralyzed from some accident.... She did not go out with him again due to the deception.

[leadcounsel]

Here's a good one, which relates to a theme I've experienced. Women tend to lie about their weight and body size/style significantly. About 1/3rd of the dates I've been on, the women are several sizes larger than they claim, often about twice as big as they claim. I suspect they think a man won't care and just wants a piece so they gamble, and maybe get a free meal out of the deal anyway.

And this isn't me being shallow. If a woman is going to LIE about her size, she's dishonest and probably lazy and will only get bigger. So it's about integrity AND fitness/health. Not me being shallow.

The big warning is the selfie held way up high, looking down at large exposed cleavage. Odds are good she's a big girl, or larger than she claims anyway.

I fell for it many times, but these days if a woman shows up not looking like I expect, I walk.

A few years back, I traded pics with a very attractive woman. Good conversation too. We agreed to meet at a bar for drinks and I drove 60+ minutes into the city to come to her area. Through texts we coordinated "I'm on this street," etc.

So, picture this. I'm standing on the corner of 1st and Elm street where we agreed to meet, on the block where the bar is located. I text her. She responds, "I'm also at the corner." I look around and simply cannot find her. I look across the street and wonder, "Is she behind that big fat lady?" Then our eyes meet and she waves and starts WADDLING across the street. I feel like a bucket of cold water hits me in the face. This woman is not only dishonest and misleading, and probably 350 pounds, but now I have to make nice conversation and pay for her drinks as well??? Not. Gonna. Happen.
As we walk to the bar, I simply tell her I'm not interested, and leave. And that's my policy these days. You lie or are dishonest or misleading, I'm done immediately.

If the story isn't clear, her pictures were fully unrepresentative and about 200 pounds ago and I barely recognized her face which was 30% larger than her pictures...

[BlDtyLry]

I've done the online dating thing and it is really a hit or miss. These are some of the questions I ask.

1. How often do you see your family?
2. What kind of car do you drive?
3. What day do you do your laundry?
4. If there is one thing you could change about yourself what would it be?
5. What is your opinion on hunting?

Of course there are the obvious questions but the above questions give me insight on possible personality issues that do not coincide well with my personality. On the first date I always walk the woman to her car to have a look at how clean the interior and exterior are.

Here's one bad date:
Me: "let's meet"
Her: "ok, Starbucks at 7pm"
Me: "What are you wearing so I can recognize you?"
Her: "White T-shirt and Jeans"
Me: "Ok, see you then"

Show up at Starbucks at 6:30pm to case it out. She shows up at 6:55pm. Recognize the car and what she is wearing but physically she looks 10yrs older and 100lbs heavier then in the pictures. I then turn on the car and drive away. Text her, "sorry have to cancel, maybe another time". This happens 10% of the time. I know it's shallow but you can't start a relationship on lies. The other 90% of the time is good and the best conversation starter is: "So tell me how many bad dates have you been on lately?" I leave the rest up to chemistry.

Sometimes I meet a date for lunch. At the end of the date I always ask, "are you free next week for dinner?" If we are both interested then I pickup the tab for lunch. If we both are not interested I pay my half of lunch and leave a tip. What's the saying? No free lunches. Even better if she picks up the tab.

After my first marriage ended I dated a lot. By a lot I mean least two dates a week for a little over 2yrs. I had the booty-calls, the on deck, and the let's see where this goes group. When I met my now wife I was dating two other women. In the end I picked her. She was very happy and even bragged to her friends and family that I was a male-whore. She told me that she would thank all of my past girlfriends and my ex if she ever met them. Been married for 8yrs now.

[deadshot2]

I'm afraid that all the gal's in my age group are looking for someone to empty their commode chair, bring them fresh Depends, and help them keep track of their med's.

[Alpine]

So glad I don't have to date. It's been 17 years since I had to deal with it.

[leadcounsel]

I've done the online dating thing and it is really a hit or miss. These are some of the questions I ask.

1. How often do you see your family?
2. What kind of car do you drive?
3. What day do you do your laundry?
4. If there is one thing you could change about yourself what would it be?
5. What is your opinion on hunting?

Of course there are the obvious questions but the above questions give me insight on possible personality issues that do not coincide well with my personality. On the first date I always walk the woman to her car to have a look at how clean the interior and exterior are.

Here's one bad date:
Me: "let's meet"
Her: "ok, Starbucks at 7pm"
Me: "What are you wearing so I can recognize you?"
Her: "White T-shirt and Jeans"
Me: "Ok, see you then"

Show up at Starbucks at 6:30pm to case it out. She shows up at 6:55pm. Recognize the car and what she is wearing but physically she looks 10yrs older and 100lbs heavier then in the pictures. I then turn on the car and drive away. Text her, "sorry have to cancel, maybe another time". This happens 10% of the time. I know it's shallow but you can't start a relationship on lies. The other 90% of the time is good and the best conversation starter is: "So tell me how many bad dates have you been on lately?" I leave the rest up to chemistry.

Sometimes I meet a date for lunch. At the end of the date I always ask, "are you free next week for dinner?" If we are both interested then I pickup the tab for lunch. If we both are not interested I pay my half of lunch and leave a tip. What's the saying? No free lunches. Even better if she picks up the tab.

After my first marriage ended I dated a lot. By a lot I mean least two dates a week for a little over 2yrs. I had the booty-calls, the on deck, and the let's see where this goes group. When I met my now wife I was dating two other women. In the end I picked her. She was very happy and even bragged to her friends and family that I was a male-whore. She told me that she would thank all of my past girlfriends and my ex if she ever met them. Been married for 8yrs now.

Awesome post, and I'm going to steal that maneuver regarding paying for the meal/drinks.

[Stokes]

If you don't use Google Voice, you're playing with fire. Disposable phone numbers are worth a necessity.